I’ve been diligently working on writing two very different books for over three months. Don’t get me wrong; I enjoy writing enormously, possibly more than sex. This morning  (3 am here), I find myself in a stripped-down version of the movie “The Shining,” where Johnny goes nuts. Fellow writers, have any of you become obsessively possessive about your craft?  Do you dream of writing?  Do you get into your writing so deeply that if someone sighs, it shatters your concentration enough to make you want to scream at them?

I’m there right now. It’s not my husband. It’s not the phone (I turn it off when writing).  It’s MY CAT! Oy has to lay right in front of the keyboard and purr, slobber and purr some more before he jumps off in a cloud of cat hair. I’m a tough lady who’s gone through lots of horrible stuff.  You’d think I’d have the ability to easily shove the dang cat off my desk – nope, I can’t.  Attached is a picture of him.

I think I’m going to cough up a hairball.

Dr. Deb

Sassy Ash

From life’s experiences and subsequent healings, everything seems to begin and end right between the ears. That’s where the entire universe seems to reside – within our minds. Letting go of mental limitations sets us free from the need to limit ourselves. We all know we can heal ourselves when we make our minds up to do so. That theory was easy to write—excruciatingly difficult to do.

While walking the path to finding our authentic selves, a question popped into my mind. What would we do with the ashes of our memories if we could destroy them with fire? Study them, move them around, try to make sense of the patterns formed by the ash? Toss them in the wind?  I like all those unique out-of-the-box ways of thinking.

So I decided to kick the ash out of my life and become “sassy.”

Dr. Deb

Fantastic Beasts – Update 5/9/21

I have a deeply hidden addiction to . . . . Harry Potter!!!  I’ve read and watched all the movies and continue to search for other cool info – about the beasts in HP.  So, every few days I’ll write a bit about a couple of them. Dr. Deb

“The Department of Registration of Control of Magical Creatures”
gives classifications to all known beasts, beings, and spirits.

Below is an at-a-glance guide to the perceived
dangerousness levels of each creature.
– There are 5 categories –


The Grindylow – M.O.M. Classification:  XX (5/9/21)

A horned, pale-gree water demon, the Grindylow is found in lakes throughout Britain and Ireland.  It feeds on small fish and is aggressive towards wizards and Muggles alike, though merpeople have been known to domesticate it.  The Grindylow has very long fingers, which, though they exert a powerful grip, are easy to break.

The Hidebehind – Accidently Created – M.O.M. CLASSIFICATION: XXXX – (5/9/21)

The Hidebehind is an accidentally created species, imported to North America by Old World crook Phineas Fletcher. Fletcher, a trader in banned artifacts and creatures, had intended to import a trafficked Demiguise into the New World, with the aim of manufacturing invisibility cloaks.  The Hidebehind escaped on board the ship and bred with a stowaway ghoul. Their resultant offspring took off into Massachusetts forests when Phineas’s ship docked, and their descendants continue to infest the region today.

The Hidebehind is nocturnal and has the power of invisibility.  Those who have seen it, describe a tall, silver-haired creature, something like a skinny bear.  Its preferred prey is humans, which Magizoologiss speculate is the result of the cruelty with which Phineas Fletcher was known to treat the unfortunate creatures in his power.

Just Learned!!

Rowling and Harry Share A Birthday!  They both blow out candles on July 31.  And, that not the only influence Rowling had on her characters:  She’s said that Hermione was a bit like her when she was younger, and her favorite animal is an otter – which is, of course, Hermione’s Patronus.  Plus, both Dumbledore and Rowling like sherbet lemons! (Rowling said that the wizards “got good taste”).

The best part is . . .. she invented the names of the Hogwarts Houses on the back of a barf bag!  Love that!!!

The Niffler – A Bristish Beast – M.O.M. CLASSIFICATION OF: XXX

Fluffy, black, and long-snouted with a predilection for anything glittery.  They are often kept by goblins to burrow deep into the earth for treasures. Though the Niffler is gentle and even affectionate, it can be destructive to belongings and should never be kept in a house.  Nifflers live in lairs up to twenty feet below the surface and produce six to eight young in a litter.

The Nogtail – Demons Found in Rural Areas – M.O.M. CLASSIFICATION OF: XXX

They are found in rural areas of Europe, Russia, and the Americas.  They resemble stunted piglets with long legs, thick stubby tails, and narrow black eyes. The Nogtail creep into a sty and suckle ordinary sows alongside her own young. The longer the Nogtail is left undetected, and the bigger it grows, the longer the blight on the farm into which it has entered.

It is exceptionally fast and difficult to catch, though if chased beyond the boundaries of a farm by a pure white dog, it will never return.  The Department of Regulation and Control of Magical Creatures (Pest Sub-Division) keeps a dozen albino bloodhounds for this purpose.

The Phoenix – Lives On Mountain Peaks – M.O.M. CLASSIFICATION OF: XXXX

The phoenix is a magnificent, swan-sized, scarlet bird with a long golden tail, beak, and talons. It nests on mountain peaks and is found in Egypt, India, and China. The phoenix lives to an immense age as it can regenerate, bursting into flames when its body begins to fail and rising again from the ashes as a chick.

The phoenix is a gentle creature that has never been known to kill and only eats herbs (yummy!).  Like the Diricawl, it can disappear and reappear at will. The song of a Phoenix is magical:  It is reputed to increase the courage of the pure of heart and to strike fear into the hearts of the impure.  Phoenix tears have powerful healing powers.

The Pixie – Inhabits deep Lakes – M.O.M. Classification:  XXX

The Pixie is mostly found in Cornwall, England.  Electric blue in color, up to eight inches in height, and very mischievous, the pixie delights in tricks and practical jokes of all descriptions.  Although wingless, it can fly and has been known to seize unwary humans by the ears and deposit them at the tops of tall trees and buildings.  Pixies produce a high-pitched jabbering intelligible only to other pixies.  They bear live young.

Grief Keeper

Longing, loss, loss, and grief. Those are some of the hardest things to work with. I’m not only talking about the death of “a person,” it can be the death of a routine, a recipe you lost from your great-great-grandmother, a job opportunity you thought you had in the bag, or you just found out they discontinued your favorite brand of toilet paper. Grief is not something to be “cured” or “to get over.”  You have to live through it, grapple with it, smack it down, and watch it bounce back up and feel it tear your heart to pieces yet again.  The bummer in our society is we have been taught to deny our grief.  We can have it for a little bit, but not too long because we need to “get over it.”

John Green wrote the following in his novel, The Fault in Our Stars.  “The pleasure of remembering had been taken from me because there was no longer anyone to remember with.  It felt like morning the death of a co-rememberer, which meant losing the memory itself of the things we’d done together that were real and less important than they had been hours ago”.  That’s POWERFUL! I understand this quote to the tightest throat-strangling level.  I lost my entire birth family before I was 45; parents and siblings; my only child.  All my birth family that co-created my childhood memories have passed on.  Now, I’m the “Keeper of My Own Memories.”

Nothing seems to be normal in our world lately. We fear sharing the fear we all feel with all the COVID deaths that could potentially knock on our door. The experience of grief, no, actually the effect of grief, is something we need to reorient ourselves to . . . again.  That includes physical issues, emotional fears, and all those deeply hidden feelings.  I think a lot of us feel like “I’m grieving” has been stamped on our foreheads.

Remember, feeling lost can happen by “grieving” anything, not just self. Maybe you’ve lost a cherished item or are beginning to slowly lose some of your memories from aging. Or, you are in shock from learning you are terminally ill, just when you also found your spouse is cheating on you.  Grieving makes it easy to forget how to behave, where to park the car, or being shocked when we have moments where we cannot comprehend the meaning of a word – at all.  How do we pull ourselves out of the quagmire of grief? Very carefully and with a generous amount of gentleness.

I’ve created a new “F” word for society. “Forgiveness.” Forgiving can help release the pain of longing, loss, being lost, and feeling nothing but grief.  Forgive those who have passed away, the boss that didn’t give you your well-deserved promotion, and forgive your husband for watching football every Sunday.  Last, but not least, forgive your hairdresser for that ugly “doo” she gave you just before the wedding you needed to attend.

The bottom line is that letting go IS the best form of self-healing.  So, let all your crazy human feelings bounce around and just be your authentic self.  Remember to giggle and dance to your heart’s desire.

Hugs, Dr. Deb

Containers of Life

The container of your life is like your roof.

You can either layer it with the same old beliefs, judgments, intentions,
and habits or you clean up the clutter and start over.

Clean Cleaning up requires the courage to let go,
to complete, and to tie up loose ends.
It may also require you to release some of your old hopes and dreams.

Let’s all recapitulate our personal sentimentality and make
sure it is not getting in the way of creating something absolutely awesome.

In real people talk, that means we need to briefly summarize
whatever we want to say in case it’s BS.

Queen of BS – Dr. Deb
(Disclaimer: I really tried not to offend everyone)

Sorry Statement – I’m Losing it!

Hey, all you fabulous followers!  I wanted to take a moment to apologize for all the CRAZY changes going on with my website.  Bet everyone’s mind is spinning on what you’ll see next!  Ha!

I’m keeping what you see now, but I will be taming down the purple color in just a few minutes.  And then, I’m making myself a cocktail because I’m SUPER STRESSED OUT!!!

Love all of you . . . I really would love to have us all together at the same time to chat about why we post, what we post, and what we’ll do next. I’m pretty sure lots of you could teach me a lot of things.  The most important and irritating issue is keeping my cat off my desk when I’m working…..

Chat back ok?!!

Dr. Deb

Ode to the Typo . . .

A typo I’ve made is out there somewhere
And if you point that out, I think that rocks . . .

I have trouble living in a square
I fight my way out of all four-walled boxes. . .

So, just for today, let’s fight “Perfectionism” everywhere
And show the world that being “Perfect” actually makes us square. . .

(Just wanted to add some “humor” to our “Monday Blues.”)

Dr. Deb