Most of us are familiar with the “feeling” of being ashamed or shamed, and sadly, some experience it at a very tender age. These types of memories haunt the heart and mind for decades. To be without shame is worse than experiencing it because to be shameless or without consciousness, harming others can easily be done to others – without remorse.
Shame is not healthy when it is a result of abuse – it becomes “toxic shame.” An abused individual believes they deserve abuse. They feel guilty frequently as their “internal” reality becomes riddled with deeply destructive levels of shame about who they are and why. Their self-esteem plummets as the tolerance of their own abuse escalates to levels that become emotionally and mentally unhealthy. As they get closer and closer to feeling completely out of control, their fear of failure becomes monumental.
Toxic shame can be healed even with its emotional and physical weaknesses, can affect the entire immune system. The digestion process becomes diseased as the liver becomes toxic, the kidneys ache, the pituitary, thyroid, and adrenal glands are weakened. Headaches, colds, heartburn, dizziness, muscle spasms, anger flares, fibromyalgia, joint pain, and more frequently occur as well.
In the natural healing world, illnesses are seen as messages from the body saying, “please help me.” Understand the body, mind, spirit, emotions, and soul all must be healed together – not separately. If you or someone you know is experiencing toxic shame, please consider getting help for them or yourself.
You cannot heal alone – ask for help. I know this because, for 9 years, I myself was a victim of abuse.